Stages of male sexual development and characteristics of adolescent sexual psychology

[Development of Male Sexual Psychology] Male sexual psychology is the psychological activity that revolves around male sexual characteristics, sexual desire and sexual behavior, which consists of sexual awareness, sexual knowledge, sexual feelings, sexual concepts and sexual experience.

(1) Infancy (0-1 year): Infants rarely react to or feel external things. If their sexually sensitive parts, such as the penis, are stimulated, some unusual reflex actions can be seen.

The most obvious characteristic of sexual activity during this period is that the impulses are not directed at other people, but seek satisfaction in the self; that is to say, sexuality in infancy is primitive and instinctive.

(2) Infancy (1-3 years): During this period, the ability to control defecation is developed, making the anus the second place after the lips where sexual pleasure can be obtained.

As the sexual organs develop, this area of ​​sexual pleasure gradually shifts to the penis.

(3) Early childhood (3-7 years old): During this period, boys begin to be interested in their own penis and develop sexual awareness. Masturbation often begins at this time.

(4) Adolescence: This period is an important turning point in human psychological activities. Adolescence generally begins at the age of 12, and nocturnal emission is a sign that a boy has entered adolescence.

During this period, boys also grow body hair, their bones harden, their muscles develop, and they develop feelings of attraction to the opposite sex. The most common sexual desire is masturbation, which is the result of the physiological functions and complex sexual psychological activities of adolescents.

(5) Middle and old age: This period includes middle-aged people’s sexual awareness of sexual intercourse after marriage; the elderly face sexual aging. Men enter the 50-55 age range. Due to the decline in the function of reproductive organs such as the testes, they enter menopause and experience phenomena such as nervousness, fatigue, excitement, and difficulty concentrating. Their sexual physiological function declines, but their sexual desire does not necessarily decrease. This leads to an imbalance between sexual psychology and physiology. First, they feel anxious and even fearful about the decline in their sexual ability. Second, their sexual desires become more diverse.

[Male Sexual Psychological Characteristics] Because male sexual development is later than that of females of the same age, the development of sexual awareness is also later than that of females.

When a person experiences their first ejaculation and the physical manifestations of their sexual characteristics, a series of complex and subtle psychological changes occur.

Generally speaking, men are not adequately prepared for such changes, and therefore find it difficult to adapt, often experiencing anxiety and unease.

At the onset of puberty, males do not show much interest in the opposite sex, and may even show aversion and estrangement.

They value friendships with same-sex partners.

After entering the period of close contact with the opposite sex, they develop an emotional need to get closer to them. They are generally curious about women and want to understand them, including their physical and psychological aspects.

They want to showcase their talents in front of women in order to attract their attention.

They are especially enthusiastic in front of women they like, hoping to become heroes and objects of admiration in the eyes of the opposite sex.

Men's emotions are outward and passionate when they are around women.

However, sometimes they have high expectations for their performance, lack self-confidence, and often feel nervous in front of the opposite sex.

Because male sexual awareness develops differently than female sexual awareness, once a male has a desire to approach the opposite sex and develops an interest in and some interaction with a specific target, sexual desire often arises.

Men reach sexual maturity later than women, but their development and changes are more dramatic, quickly entering a period of heightened sexual desire, characterized by the generation of sexual arousal and an increase in sexual desire.

During adolescence, the ability to overcome sexual desires with reason is also a sign of sexual psychological maturity.

[The "Expectation Effect" in the Heart of a Romantic Couple] The "expectation effect" in the heart of a romantic couple manifests itself in the following ways:

Their words are subtle yet poetic, their actions discreet yet virtuous; their speech, demeanor, gaze, expression, and behavior all embody the word "love." Some exhibit a single-minded pursuit of their beloved, displaying unwavering loyalty.

They don't allow third-party involvement and are prone to jealousy.

It's important to understand that love is exclusive, while friendship is inclusive. We must respect each other's personality and allow them to maintain normal interpersonal relationships.

Some people experience extreme mood swings, ranging from intense heat to freezing cold.

When happy, they dance with joy and smile broadly; when frustrated, they hang their heads and become dejected.

Such dramatic emotional fluctuations can sometimes have adverse effects on physical and mental health. Therefore, it is necessary to strengthen self-cultivation and continuously improve oneself to reduce emotional volatility.

When people are deeply in love, their cognitive activities tend to narrow, their rational analytical abilities are suppressed, and their habitual behaviors are disrupted. Many things that happen at this time may be completely different from usual.

At the same time, due to a weakened ability to control themselves, they are often unable to restrain their behavior and cannot correctly evaluate the meaning and consequences of their actions, which may lead to premarital sex.

Young men and women in love should respect each other and themselves, and maintain the purity of their love.

If one party loses their temper and makes inappropriate demands, the other party should be brave enough to speak up and remind them in time, consciously guiding their passion towards broader areas such as ideals, studies, and the future, or using other activities beneficial to physical and mental health to cultivate their sentiments and sublimate their sexual impulses.

[Vision and Sexual Psychology] Sexual attraction is initially triggered by vision.

Comparatively speaking, men value women's appearance more and require less of their talent than their appearance; women value men's talent more and require less of their appearance than their talent.

In daily life, many sexually compatible couples are not necessarily perfect in appearance; the man may be handsome while the woman is not, or the woman may be good-looking while the man is not. Yet, they are deeply attracted to each other.

The reason for this is that the visual exploration of the beauty of the opposite sex's physical form is constrained by a higher level of consciousness, namely aesthetic standards.

The union of the sexes, whether successful or not, always begins with "love at first sight," only the outcome may differ.

When choosing a partner, everyone has a specific or general idea in mind. So, when he or she finds that the opposite sex matches his or her ideal person, he or she will naturally have the idea of ​​"love at first sight".

A person's physical appearance and "first impression" can generally provide a wealth of information. For example, one can make a preliminary judgment about some of his or her indescribable psychological qualities from a person's clothing, behavior, and speech, such as a man's charisma and a woman's gentleness.

Of course, the two parties should go through a deeper process of getting to know each other. If they only affirm each other based on the first meeting's sexiness, it may lead to disappointment or even a tragic ending in the matter of choosing a partner.

The visual organs play an important role in emotional communication between the sexes. Some emotions that are difficult to express in words are often expressed through eye contact during sex.