Six major killers of sexual happiness, along with updated sexual concepts and knowledge about sexual health such as the dangers of suppressing ejaculation.

According to surveys, about one-third of marital disharmony in my country is caused by erectile dysfunction, and in urban areas, more than one-third of divorce cases are directly related to disharmony in sexual life. This demonstrates that a fulfilling sex life is crucial for both personal health and maintaining marital happiness.

In reality, many men suffer from erectile dysfunction due to unhealthy lifestyle habits or adverse external factors. Here are six major killers affecting sexual well-being. If you are experiencing any of these issues, it's time to take precautions.

(1) Excessive stress

Excessive stress is a common problem in today's society. The high-intensity, fast-paced lifestyle of modern society places immense pressure on many men from work, life, and society. According to a World Health Organization survey, 60% to 75% of middle-aged men are in a state of sub-health, with those aged 40 to 59 accounting for about 60%. The main causes of sub-health in men are overwork, poor sleep, and weakened immunity. Furthermore, when experiencing negative emotions and excessive mental stress, especially in states of extreme anxiety, sadness, fear, depression, and despair, men's erectile function can be significantly affected, even to the point of complete loss.

(2) Unhealthy lifestyle

Smoking, drinking, and lack of sleep... these bad habits are also threatening our health. Excessive alcohol consumption causes vasodilation throughout the body, easily leading to erectile dysfunction; even if an erection is achieved, ejaculation occurs quickly, and the chance of achieving another erection is greatly reduced. Furthermore, unbalanced nutrition, insufficient sleep, and a fondness for stimulants such as coffee, cola, and tea can all interfere with the transmission of sexual desire.

(3) Malnutrition

Balanced nutrition is crucial for a person's energy; both insufficient and excessive nutrition can lead to male infertility. When malnourished, the body lacks the necessary vitamins and minerals, resulting in reduced sperm production and decreased sperm motility. Long-term consumption of foods containing nitrites or artificial colorings such as preservatives and sulfanilamide can also lead to a decline in sperm count and quality.

Whether a sexual life is fulfilling depends primarily on the man. Therefore, men should pay attention to a balanced diet, ensuring adequate intake of vitamins, minerals, and trace elements, and correcting any nutritional deficiencies or excesses. This will allow them to fully enjoy a fulfilling sex life.

(4) Diseases

Physical illnesses are closely related to decreased sexual function. Conditions such as hypertension, hyperlipidemia, diabetes, and arteriosclerosis can prevent sufficient blood flow to the penis, naturally affecting normal sexual activity. Therefore, it is important to seek treatment immediately upon diagnosis and pay attention to daily dietary hygiene to prevent illness from entering through the mouth.

(5) Certain drugs

Studies have shown that long-term use of antihypertensive drugs, hypoglycemic drugs, antidepressants, hormones, anticancer drugs, sedatives, and antiepileptic drugs may lead to erectile dysfunction. Therefore, if you develop this condition, you should seek immediate and active treatment, and strictly follow your doctor's instructions when taking any medication to avoid drug abuse.

(6) Misuse of condoms

Incorrect condom use is also a significant factor contributing to sexual dysfunction. For men, condoms are one of the most intimate personal items, but improper use can cause problems. Some condoms are too tight, which can damage penile tissue and affect erectile function. Therefore, condom size is crucial; even a difference of just one millimeter in circumference can have a significant impact.

From a medical perspective, using a condom that is too tight can cause ischemia in the penis, leading to oxygen deprivation in the penile tissues and nerves. If the corpora cavernosa are damaged, it can cause erectile dysfunction, and in severe cases, even impotence. The standard condom size is 52 mm in circumference. Some people need larger condoms (54 mm circumference), while smaller condoms have a circumference of 51 mm. Therefore, the safest way to use condoms is to buy them from the same pharmacy. If you can't go to the same pharmacy, you should at least confirm the size beforehand and avoid rushing.

Health Class

Men should actively manage their own health, keeping their minds and bodies free from fatigue and maintaining high energy levels. This will ensure a healthy and harmonious sex life. They should cultivate good lifestyle habits, such as not smoking, drinking less alcohol, and ensuring a balanced diet. If they become ill, they should promptly seek medical attention and treatment, taking medication correctly, and not let illness affect their sexual well-being.

As bodily functions gradually decline, middle-aged men often face numerous anxieties, with their biggest concern being the constant struggle with decreasing libido and sexual function. This can be very frustrating for most men. However, a decline in sexual ability is a normal physiological response for men after age 40, so there's no need to worry excessively. The most important thing is to update one's sexual attitudes in a timely manner.

(1) Do not blindly speculate about your sexual desire and sexual ability.

A person's sexual desire and ability cannot remain unchanged forever. Especially compared to when they were young, the fluctuations in sexual desire may be more obvious. Even when in their best condition, there may be some fluctuations. Therefore, middle-aged men should pay attention to the differences when facing their declining libido, so as not to feel disappointed and draw wrong conclusions due to overly high psychological goals, which could lead to a huge psychological blow.

(2) Accepting a penis that is no longer "very hard"

While middle-aged men's penile erection rigidity is certainly not as good as it was in their youth, this shouldn't be the primary factor affecting their sex life. For most couples, maintaining an erection rigidity of 60% to 70% is sufficient to satisfy their sexual needs. Furthermore, this seemingly "unpleasant" change in the penis during middle age may actually prolong intercourse and improve the quality of sex life. Astute couples can appreciate this subtle difference.

(3) Winning with fewer troops

As couples enter middle age, the frequency of sexual activity inevitably needs to be adjusted appropriately. Therefore, middle-aged men should not compare their frequency of intercourse with that of their younger years, nor should they be overly concerned about the quantity of sex. Instead, they should focus more on the quality of their sex life. As long as both partners achieve physical and emotional satisfaction, even with a reduced frequency of intercourse, they can still experience immense emotional and physical pleasure.

(4) Using slowness to overcome speed

Middle-aged men experience a gradual slowdown in the rhythm and speed of sexual arousal, and the time it takes to reach orgasm also prolongs. While these changes may superficially appear as a decline in sexual ability, they actually bring the man's and wife's sexual arousal processes closer together, making it easier for their sexual sensations to synchronize. Furthermore, this emotionally charged, slow movement is more alluring to the wife, more easily igniting her passion and allowing her to experience immense pleasure afterward.

Furthermore, paying attention to certain details in daily life can also maintain sexual function. For example, maintaining a sense of humor and keeping a clean and tidy appearance can earn others' respect for your energy and charm, thus giving you a sense of vitality. This is not only important to others, but even more important to yourself. Remember, only by maintaining a joyful mind and body can you enjoy pleasurable sex.

During sexual intercourse, some people, for various reasons, try to suppress ejaculation when they reach orgasm, even squeezing their penis with their hands to prevent semen from being released. This practice of suppressing ejaculation is harmful and not beneficial.

(1) Reasons for suppressing ejaculation

Since someone does this, there must be a reason that prompts them to do so. Common reasons include:

① Fear of getting the woman pregnant

This practice is often seen in men who ejaculate outside the vagina. After reaching orgasm inside the vagina, they fear impregnating their partner, so they force themselves not to ejaculate and immediately pull out.

② In order to prolong the duration of intercourse

Some men, in order to demonstrate their sexual prowess, always try their best to prevent ejaculation during sexual intercourse, thus prolonging the duration of intercourse.

③ Influenced by traditional consciousness

Traditional beliefs hold that "one drop of semen is worth ten drops of blood," suggesting that ejaculation severely depletes vital energy. Therefore, some people believe that excessive ejaculation can cause kidney deficiency and shorten lifespan, and thus try to abstain from ejaculation, thinking this will promote health and longevity.

(2) Ejaculation is a natural physiological phenomenon.

In sexual intercourse, male orgasm manifests as ejaculation, a very natural physiological phenomenon. During intercourse, the penis reaches orgasm through repeated friction, and the semen stored in the seminal vesicles is ejaculated, at which point the man experiences intense pleasure. Therefore, men generally consider the pleasurable sensation of ejaculation as the goal of their sexual life.

The practice of suppressing ejaculation goes against the body's physiological laws: the pleasure produced by ejaculation brings sexual satisfaction, leading to a more harmonious sex life for both partners. Those who suppress ejaculation will not experience this pleasure. Sexual response is a natural process; artificially interfering with or controlling it can easily lead to sexual dysfunction and induce sexual disorders.

Semen is just a bodily secretion. Even if it is not expelled through ejaculation, it will inevitably be expelled through nocturnal emission or with urine. The idea that semen is the essence of the human body is unscientific.

(3) Forcibly suppressing ejaculation is extremely harmful to men.

Forcibly suppressing ejaculation can easily lead to the following diseases:

① Causes hemorrhoids

If you frequently suppress ejaculation, the continuous contraction of the gluteal muscles will affect the blood circulation of the anal venous plexus, causing varicose veins, congestion, and hemorrhoids.

② Erectile dysfunction

When approaching climax, the urge to ejaculate is suppressed, leading to excessive pelvic congestion and increasing the burden on the sexual nervous system and sexual organs, causing "over-fatigue." Over time, this can lead to decreased libido in men, which not only hinders their sexual performance but also easily induces erectile dysfunction.

③ Induces aseptic prostatitis

After normal ejaculation, the male sexual organs secrete sufficient fluids and gradually become fatigued, and the blood flow in the penis returns to normal within a short period of time. If ejaculation is suppressed, it will lead to continuous congestion of the penis, prostate, and other sexual organs, which can easily cause nonbacterial prostatitis, manifested as cloudy urine, dribbling urine, perineal discomfort, and lower back pain.

④ Leads to infertility

During orgasm, the vas deferens, seminal vesicles, prostate, and urethral muscles contract rhythmically, inevitably resulting in ejaculation, which cannot be suppressed. If the penis is forcibly held closed to prevent ejaculation, the semen will be forced to push backward through the bladder entrance, entering the bladder and causing "retrograde ejaculation." Over time, this can become a conditioned reflex, making retrograde ejaculation a habit, which can lead to infertility.

⑤ Induces frequent nocturnal emissions

Suddenly interrupting intercourse and forcibly suppressing ejaculation can easily lead to excess semen in the body having nowhere to be released. At this time, apart from a small amount of semen being absorbed by the body, most of the semen can only be expelled through nocturnal emission. In addition, since intercourse does not end with ejaculation, sexual desire is not fully released, and the sexual organs remain in a state of erection and congestion for a long time. This can easily lead to sexual dreams during sleep and frequent nocturnal emissions.

In short, the quality of sexual life is the result of interaction between husband and wife. Everyone should understand the normal physiology and pathology of male and female sexuality and act within their own capabilities. If the above problems occur due to suppressing ejaculation, you should consult a urologist promptly and receive treatment under their guidance.